OT: Ask Mack..... Part II - Freaky Friday!!!!!!

You STUPID!!............

J

I think Imma need to go into 'bidness' with you...... I'll let YOU set em up, get the gifts, we will market them on E-bay and split the proceeds..... I'LL be the one giving up the kitty.....



hell - I need to figure out what exactly it is you doin - cause a mofo I JUST met and talked to TWICE talked to me last night about the LACK of kitty he's had - the mofo actually used the word 'marinate' in reference to the duration of our meeting...... FOR DRINKS ONLY......

I checked in the mirror - 'sex kitten' is NOT on my forehead!!!!! LMAOOOOOO

I'm still not buying that you're not giving SOME mixed signal to these men tho - either that or you live in the area with the dumbest email.

LMAO!   @ 'marinate'

I can't get more clear than its never going to happen.  I didn't stutter.   Friends ok but lovers hell no.  I occaisionally make a generous friend, lol.   

Okay Mack..I need that male part of your mind to kick it up for me right 'bout now...

Concern:
I am concerned about the amount of skin and sagging I have left over from the weight loss (thank you God for Spanx) so like many others, I am having a tummy tuck and breast lift done in September.  Now...I'm worried about the scars! I know that sounds vain. I know it does, but remember Mack, I have not been naked in front of anyone other than my doctors (and I had to pay them) in 10 YEARS!!! The last time I got naked in front of someone, I was left thinking he didn't find me attractive enough. Okay..10 years later I find out that wasn't true...BUT...for 10  years I thought that it was and it messed with me. So...now I'm sensitive.

Here the question:
Men being primarily visual, does the wrinkly skin, sagging, scars and imperfections turn them off? Cuz...lingerie is lovely (I personally have an addiction and Victory Secret and Secrets in Lace are my dealers) but sooner or later a man wants his woman soft, curvy, smelling sweet and butt naked!!

Chile – who you think you telling?  I had an anchor TT and breast lift last year!  You wanna talk scars – pull up a chair and let’s chat!!!!

 

I did have the same concern – and believe it or not, I was kind of more comfortable BEFORE the plastics – at least I could blame it on the cheeseburgers, right? LOL!

 

What I have discovered – and what *I* know – is that we men (yea, I said it) are committed to the ‘do’ once we step in the door and know it’s going down!!! There’s not really much you could do to mess that up – the train has left the station and the tickets were already checked, you on this ride till it stops!!! LOL.

 

YOUR confidence and bravado are what will make or break the situation – hell, once we get you nekkid – it’s ALL good – no matter what! We don’t actually visualize your body the way you may think – there’s no magazine shot in our head – we just wanna see what it looks like…. PERIOD.  We’re excited that we are seeing it in LIVE action, not just daydreams or the late night hand action we’ve been using up until that point when thinking about you.  

 

What you need to know – is that moment really IS your moment!!! Ain’t no messin it up and no need to feel like you’re not the most perfect, hottest, sexiest, most beautifulest mofo in the world – cause at that moment, with that man – chile – ain’t no other bytch EVER could compare!!!!!

 

Hope that helps.

I ain't no dude, however I can dress and act in a way to make you think I was one if need be.  LOL,,,,,,   but I got a little something to say on the loose skin dept. 

Becca was 361 pounds at 4 feet 11 and after surgery she got tiny she is usually around 127 - 8 pounds so as you may imagine she had a ton of skin,  her belly skin was only 4 inches from her knees and I grew to love it,  it was soft and kind of fun.

The only problem and it can be a problem is that you gotta lift that dam skin up and wa**** good, cause if you got someone eating at the "buffet" you don't want them smelling spoiled milk.   LOL  if you get my drift.    

Now personally I never had it happen to me, but a friend of mine husband, who knows we had WLS, asked Becca and me what his wife could do about it the sour smell.   LOL.  turned out she had a horrible smelly bacteria infection from not cleaning well.

I just delayed my dating women for ANOTHER 6 weeks.... I gotta get that thought outta my head.....

LOL! 

Mack I could tell you some stories that would scare you straight and stop you from doing drive byes.

Some chicks are gross.

Yes, it can be a very serious problem for many of us. I have not had that issue, being a clean freak about my body,( and...well...Miss Kitty is a manicured, pampered show kitty..prrrrr)  ANYWAY.. MOVING ON... NOTHING TO SEE HERE.....Also my skin does not hang that low on my tummy or breast. Its really just saggy and wrinkly. So nasty. At least to me.  I know that the TT hand BL will take care of it, but I don't need a man freaking out because I have scars either. The BIG thing here is...you love Becca unconditionally. She is beautiful in your eyes NO MATTER WHAT. To me, that's the true qualifier here. But men are men and they can be sensitive to mess like that and HEAR ME ON THIS...I am NOT walking into an ambush EVER again. I will not blindly walk into a situation where I will get hurt.  I don't separate body and heart/soul. So..to go there with someone..yea, it's a risk for me and I am trying to minimize any collateral damage that may occur.  

I feel you for real on this- I, being an upfront type bytch (I know, hard to believe) bring it up and talk about it WAAAYYYY before the bukkit nekkid.  I do it just to make SURE ain't no 'issues' or problems. I just slide it right on in the convo right after the 'condoms required' section......